Urban Magazine’s September issue spotlights multi-hyphenate creative Erika Bryant (@erikabryant), who returns for her second cover as she approaches her 50th birthday and reflects on more than two decades working across music, television, producing, writing, and entrepreneurship. Bryant discusses the importance of betting on yourself, following purpose over money, building creative teams with compassion, and embracing fear as a catalyst for growth. She also opens up about her forthcoming book, Doing It Scared in Love & Relationships, exploring vulnerability, intimacy, ambition, and giving yourself permission to make room for love while still pursuing a fully realized life. Other features include the soulful singer/songwriter Davion Farris (@iamdavionf), Def Jam's R&B singer Genia (@geniawashere), Ashia Montgomery (@ashia90day) of 90 Day Fiancé, and so much more.
into. We have a mother, a father, siblings, risk being hurt when you open yourself to friendships, and, for some, marriage love. But if you're unwilling to risk being and other relationships throughout hurt, you're also unwilling to be loved.
life. Relationships truly help shape us, Vulnerability means giving someone the probably more so than the other parts of power to hurt you, and leaning into that our lives. This is a book for everyone, and fear is part of the equation. I want everyone to read it, but it's really a gift to women.
What advice do you offer someone trying to navigate love and intimate relationships while also pursuing personal goals? Our personal goals have major importance. I am someone who found love late in life. I'm 50 later this month. This book is literally a 50th birthday gift to myself. It is me doing it scared. Even sharing that I'm going to be 50 is a thing. As women, we're not always encouraged to share our age. I built a full career, but I was still going home alone and wanted love. I have friends who are successful, have money in the bank, and have built full lives, but still want a partner to share those lives with. What I'm offering in this book is the idea that there is a way to have both. It may not be easy or perfect, but it starts with giving ourselves permission. I gave myself permission to put love on the shelf for years, so why not give myself permission to let love in? That means taking off some of the masks, capes, and armor we use to protect ourselves. Love gets through the cracks
How do you define the difference between healthy fear, which protects us, and the fear that holds us back from deep connection? I think all fear is healthy because it's information. It's not something to judge or pack away. It's something to lean into. It's an invitation: 'Here's another area of yourself or your life that is calling you forth because there's another version of you beyond that.' Fear is my muse. It's not my enemy. It's not my nemesis. It is just as important as love because on the other side of it is where the best of us lives. I'm figuring it out as I go. I don't have all the answers. I'm sharing my testimony and hoping it becomes a gift to somebody else. It's not about selling books. It's about sharing my story because I believe my story is bigger than me. I see it as my ministry to others. I don't have children, but my creative work—my books, television shows, and the people I speak to, coach, or counsel—is part of what I leave behind. Those are my children in a way. That's my legacy, and I trust that God is working through me.
in that armor. I learned that the hard way. I had to give myself permission to be soft. Yes, you
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