Urban Magazine’s September issue spotlights multi-hyphenate creative Erika Bryant (@erikabryant), who returns for her second cover as she approaches her 50th birthday and reflects on more than two decades working across music, television, producing, writing, and entrepreneurship. Bryant discusses the importance of betting on yourself, following purpose over money, building creative teams with compassion, and embracing fear as a catalyst for growth. She also opens up about her forthcoming book, Doing It Scared in Love & Relationships, exploring vulnerability, intimacy, ambition, and giving yourself permission to make room for love while still pursuing a fully realized life. Other features include the soulful singer/songwriter Davion Farris (@iamdavionf), Def Jam's R&B singer Genia (@geniawashere), Ashia Montgomery (@ashia90day) of 90 Day Fiancé, and so much more.
ASHIA MONTGOMERY
Ashia Montgomery discusses er experience finding love with Maxwell on 90 Day Fiancé, addressing their age difference, faith, doubting from family and viewer, cultural contrasts, and the complex visa process.
Society often pressures women as they age to rush love, marriage, and family. What gave you the confidence to seek love on your own terms instead of yielding to that pressure? I feel like you just have to trust God and trust God’s timing. He orchestrates everything. He knows the beginning, the end — He knows it all. As long as you’re in His will, you’re patient and you’re prepared, I feel like God is going to do His part. He’s going to bring that man.
Faith is clearly an important part of who you are. How has that influenced the way you approached your relationship with Maxwell? The biggest thing is that we’re both Pentecostal. We have the same religion, so we have the same foundation. When it comes to those things, I feel like we can definitely relate. I think it’s very important to be equally yoked with a person and to have a good understanding when it comes to the Word and applying the Word. That’s the biggest thing.
How do you distinguish between having faith in a relationship and simply hoping things work out? I’m big on red flags. If you show me a red flag, baby, I cut you off real quick. I think you also have to have wisdom. How is this person treating me? How does this person make me feel? Is this somebody I can be with long-term? Sometimes, as women, we settle. We get anxious and impatient and think, “This is kind of OK. I can work with this person.” But I think the biggest thing is making sure you can fulfill God’s will with that person.
What was it about Maxwell that made you realize the relationship was worth taking such a big leap of faith? Initially, it was finding out that we had the same religion. Then after my first visit, I watched how he interacted with people — because, baby, I was watching. My