Urban Magazine’s September issue spotlights multi-hyphenate creative Erika Bryant (@erikabryant), who returns for her second cover as she approaches her 50th birthday and reflects on more than two decades working across music, television, producing, writing, and entrepreneurship. Bryant discusses the importance of betting on yourself, following purpose over money, building creative teams with compassion, and embracing fear as a catalyst for growth. She also opens up about her forthcoming book, Doing It Scared in Love & Relationships, exploring vulnerability, intimacy, ambition, and giving yourself permission to make room for love while still pursuing a fully realized life. Other features include the soulful singer/songwriter Davion Farris (@iamdavionf), Def Jam's R&B singer Genia (@geniawashere), Ashia Montgomery (@ashia90day) of 90 Day Fiancé, and so much more.
the possibility in something before it becomes successful. She can take an idea, a house, a family, or a relationship and help it grow into more. She brings emotional intelligence, creativity, intuition, patience, loyalty, and resilience. She brings the ability to create warmth in places that once felt empty.
from a woman demanding an inventory of everything she brings. He is paying attention. He sees her character, her discipline, her heart, her intelligence, and the way she carries herself. He understands that a healthy relationship is not an audition. It is two whole people deciding what they can build together.
But too often, what a woman brings is only recognized after she stops bringing it.
So perhaps the question is not, “What does a woman bring to the table?” Perhaps the better questions are:
Her support is overlooked until there is no one left encouraging you. Her peace is undervalued until your life becomes loud without her. Her loyalty
What kind of table have you built? Is it stable? Is it safe?
is taken for granted until you realize genuine people are not easy to replace. Her presence feels ordinary until her absence changes the entire atmosphere. That is the part nobody wants to discuss. Women are constantly asked to prove their value while men are rarely asked whether they have created a space where a woman’s value can even be appreciated. Everybody wants a peaceful woman, but not everybody knows how to protect her peace. Everybody wants a Is there room for her voice? Will her contributions be valued, or will she be expected to keep proving herself while yours go unquestioned? Because women have never had a problem bringing something to the table. The real issue is that too many people want access to everything a woman carries without having the capacity to respect it, protect it, or pour anything meaningful back into her. A woman brings plenty.
loyal woman, but not everybody knows how to honor loyalty. Everybody wants a soft woman, but some people keep
The question is whether you bring enough to sit beside her.
handing her reasons to become guarded. Author Bio A woman cannot keep pouring into a place that keeps draining her and still be expected to show up full. And no, a woman’s value is not determined by how well she can serve a man. She is not valuable only because she cooks, cleans, has children, earns money, or looks good beside him. Those may be things she contributes, but they are not the full measure of who she is. She is valuable because she is whole before anyone chooses her. The right man is not sitting across
Míchelle Annaléise Coles is an author, certified relationship coach, and the founder of Annaleise Affirms LLC, a wellness brand rooted in self-love, healing, and emotional empowerment. She is the voice behind Unapologetically You: The Path to Unshakable Self- Love, a transformative guide for women ready to reclaim their worth and rewrite their narrative. Through her writing and coaching, Míchelle inspires others to break toxic cycles, build meaningful connections, and unapologetically choose themselves. Learn more at annaleiseaffirms.com