BE A GOOD NEIGHBOR
Movies teach us that our own adventures only truly begin once we have made contact with an eccentric neighbor. This lesson is so important it comprises basically the whole first semester in film school (presumably: I've never been). Prior to that fateful collision. life for the most part just unspools around us in routine and predictable patterns: people relatively similar to us doing more or less the same sorts of things on a daily basis. The boundary conditions feel present, well defined, and understood. Life has a slow hum, a customary shape all is ordinary. We share a collective belief that this is the way things are, the way we should be. We are, in this way. the furthest we can be from a child's sense of whimsy. And this life can be nice, but not as fun as it could be.
Meeting the peculiar neighbor upsets this stasis and completely reframes how we view the world. Seeing someone living so unfettered in ways that we ourselves are not forces us to examine how we live and assumptions we hold. Sometimes this disruption results in you becoming a Jedi or wizard but even falling short of that outcome we still benefit mightily from the eccentric neighbor. These people rub off on us in interesting ways. They add texture and develop lore for us, even if we don't become a protagonist in a fantasy story. This is why we must have our hearts open for the eventual eccentric neighbor, if not actively seeking them out. Some fortunate neighborhoods come pre-installed with one (ours is The Pink Lady. who wears a fuchsia track suit and walks about 40 miles a day in full Zuckerberg zinc oxide face). But most of us will not be lucky enough to have a latent eccentric neighbor. And that's when we realize the true call to adventure this whole time was becoming the eccentric neighbor ourselves. Becoming a walking movie character is the greatest gift we can gift a community.
We return once again to film to learn the four pillars of the eccentric neighbor. Memorize these keywords as they are the tasting notes of eccentricity: Color. Sidekicks. Mystery. and Service.
Wardrobe Color: Willy Wonka has his purple smoking jacket. The pigeon lady from Home Alone 2 wears what looks like a red bathrobe. Tyler Durden does karate in a burgundy leather jacket. Most people think they are "falls" and "winters" and wear neutral tones. That's boring. Color is bold and memorable. Pick an unusual color to be associated with you.
Sidekicks: The litmus test for eccentricity is when the gravitational pull of your oddity starts to attract others who want to be involved with that thing you have going on. "Mary Poppins has given the canon so much here but the specific reference point is the man with motion so profound he compelled a pirate to ground himself permanently and just spend all day loading and unloading a cannon for no reason: Admiral Boom and his right hand Mr. Binnacle. My man lords over Cherrytree Lane just telling people about the weather and shooting fireworks at the working class of London. You literally cannot get more eccentric than that. Mr. Binnacle knew he had a real freak in the Admiral. Aspirational. Mystery: As Kelso tells us in Heat, information about everyone is just flying through air.. beamed out over the place, so the real currency is cultivated intrigue. Is Totoro (My Neighbor) conjured from Satsuki's imagination as a way to deal with the grief of separation from her mother? Or is he a spiritual corporeal being drawn to her need for catharsis? I haven't seen this one in a while so I can't remember. but that mystery is delightful. That being said he absolutely has sidekick in his attendant spirits and the cat bus, so we know he's an exemplar eccentrio.
Service: Ultimately, the eccentric neighbor is first and foremost a pillar of the community. We've covered Wonka, who through his confections and gamboling reminds us all to rediscover our inner child. Admiral Boom. who in a pre-iphone era kept London abreast of climate conditions and pending inclement weather. Tyler Durden. who let guys punch him in the face. They all knew there were unmet needs in those around them and bridged that gap. Ultimately eccentricity without service is goonery. If we are to be the eccentric neighbor and brighten the lives of those around us we must offer a valuable service to reach our potential.
Like the Velvet Underground this missive may not be read by many, but it is my hope that everyone who reads it becomes someone's cinema inspired eccentric neighbor. The world will surely be a better place if so.